They say, "Anger is important".

"You are never angry at people, you won't survive. " "You are never angry, You'll be taken advantage of." "You can't deal with the world without being tough, you're weak." "You don't scold your kids , you'll spoil them." "You have to be rude, you have to fight, at some point of your life. " At work , at school , even your family members will tell you, "You'll never be able to get things done without anger,anger is important." I'm pretty sure you might have heard someone say those things, if not to you, to someone else. They say they are looking out for you, and they think they are helping you. Do not listen to them. They are not your well wishers. They don't even realize. Actually they are unintentionally jealous. They just can't understand, "How someone else can be so calm all the time, when they are not?" That's right, the society will think you're going crazy when you're going sane. Because "what everyone is doing is normal." Everyone is impatient, everybody uses anger to get things done. So , the minority who is healthy or making efforts to be ; is asked , "How are you so healthy? You should fall ill ,falling ill is normal ; after all everyone falls ill. " "Fever cough , weak eyesight , you should atleast have some cold once in a while. " Yes , they are that unrealistic when they say, Be angry , because that's what all of us do ; and what everyone is doing is normal. There are very few courageous people out there, who are not as rude as "the normals" and we want to deceive them too. And you know what? They are easily deceived. Because, anger gives immediate results , people get their things done. They don't care, they force others; the others have to do the work for them , they don't want to. This is probably why everyone hates their bosses. Everyone thinks differently, naturally there will be clash of views or dissatisfactions. Unfortunately we are acustomed to express it through an emotion called anger, because its easy. And indeed, at that moment, we feel, it was important ; but was it? Anger is a negative emotion when expressed, we hurt the listener and we hurt ourselves the most. The society has nurtured the importance of use of anger since the beginning , And that's why , anger is how we respond to some event or somebody, because we are so used to reacting on impulse, we forget to choose how we want to feel, and then respond inappropriately. Remember, when you'll be soft, when you'll choose your peace , when you'll choose to be polite, when you'll choose determination to explain over impulse or anger against the society norms. They may call you weak, they may call you crazy. But you'll know , what everyone is doing is common; and being common is not being normal. Choose for yourself. For the comfort of being accepted by others , don't just follow them. Find yourself. Be yourself. If people talk, let them.

You are not hopeless.

They say practice makes a man perfect. That means What you tell yourself everyday can either lift you up or tear you down. And unfortunately *You've got hating yourself right into you, as an art* It's now just a step in your morning routine, to glance the mirror and not like what you've seen because negativity is where you lean. Flowers in a vase, just by your bed. You see their beauty though their petals are dead. If they were a person they would hate themselves too. But they'll always be loved by someone like you. Although your petals are wilted, and you think no one knows. You're only counting your thorns but the world sees your rose. You tell me that you're hopeless. But you want your life more than your death. If you jump into the pool right now. I know you'd struggle to breath and that's not hopelessness. But that's your hope just hard to find. Today you meet a person with lesser specialties or attainments than you and you are on top of the world - you rise above the seat of self-respect and enter the dimension of ego. Tomorrow you meet a person with more specialties or attainments than you and that is a bad day for you - you go underneath the seat of self-respect and enter the dimension of low self-esteem. This is making you hopeless. Why don't you remember that comparison steals your joy? You have the capacity to experience so many emotions, both positive and negative. Sadness, anger, happiness, sympathy and the list is endless. Out of all these one very powerful emotion you opt for is comparison which brings with it, even more dominating emotion jealousy. In the 21st century, there are so many mediums which inculcate the feeling of jealousy in a person. Social Media is one such platform. While Facebook and Twitter rule the roost, commonly people wonder *How does he get so many likes? *How is she so photogenic? *Again a 'check in'! *His life is so eventful. You never know how and when these thoughts start affecting your life, mental peace and behavior greatly. But remember being aware of jealous feelings is the first step towards keeping it under control , have honest conversations about your negative feelings, its better than showing it through your actions. The jealous, the angry and the bitter may be the first to reach to the top of mountains. But a confident and internally content person enjoys the journey , the people they meet along the way and sees life not as a competition. So each morning have a luxury of imagining yourself with the success you dream of because anything that happens , happens twice ; once in our mind and once in real life. Let's make good things happen. ❤

Do you wanna know?

Do you wanna know, what living life to the fullest actually is? Its waking up on a Monday morning with no complaints. Its knowing you always deserve to laugh. It's doing what you want to, no matter how stupid you look. Sometimes, we struggle through a tasteless coffee till the last sip and then we find sugar at the bottom. That's life , Sweetened but not stirred well. And being able to stir that sugar into your coffee is living life to the fullest ❤

What Is The Best Part of Your Day?

Think of life , like your 5 year old self would, because logic will get you from A to Z . But imagination holds the power to take you everywhere. 

We all eat lies when our hearts are hungry. 

It deserves a good diet , doesn't it?

So what if, instead of thinking about solving your whole life at a time, you think of the additional good things this time. 

One at a time. Just let your pile of good things grow.

My sister once asked me , 'What is the best part of your day?'

You know, I hardly had an answer,  I thought of my night's sleep. That can't be the best part,  I'm hardly aware of it.

I realised our lives are so messy that we miss the good part because of our preoccupied mind. 

Now I know, 

I love that moment , when I'm on a long car ride , listening to music or reading a good book. And I completely zone out. 

Or when I help a little girl write her name . 

I forget all my troubles and everyone around me. 

I'm focused on that one thing only.

I'm content and everything seems so peaceful.

You know , as a little girl, I imagined chocolate rains , candy castles or a staircase on the rainbow. 

But today , comparison has stolen our joys.

All we can imagine is perfect skin and perfect scores.  We call our lives boring. The same old schedule, unless there's a grand party.

Why ? 

No one else holds that answer for you,  

You do.

Think about your day, today.

Couldn't it be better ?

Couldn't it be better if you woke up a little earlier,  looked at the peaceful sunrise,  did all the chores early and had a day of your own.

Couldnt it be better, if you did what was required instead of complaining and ruining your own mood?

Couldn't it be better , if you forgot about arguing and contributed , a little more? 

It could have been better in a million more ways. And , No one else can do it for you as good as you can.

So, for once,  think of life like your 5 year old self would ,because logic will get you from A to Z . But imagination holds the power to take you everywhere. 

We can be a little illogical for a while, amidst  our very serious exams or work.  can't we?

Cherish Your Wishes !

Everytime a flight touches down, my friend has a secret ritual ; he tries to use the power of his mind to manoeuvre a perfect landing. He silently gives directions to an unknown force to steer the aircraft to the ground safely. This has become a habit , he thinks it makes no sense. But, it does. It makes sense. As a student , during my science practicals I thought of the unprepared practicals repeatedly.I used to fearfully think I might receive the unprepared one. And I did. Years later, when I got to know about positive wishing. I confidently wished for receiving the practicals I was perfect at. And guess what? I got what I wished for. Our life is what out thoughts make it. When we think negative constantly , we are giving negativity in the universe and that's what we will receive in return. When you wish fearfully, (to God or to any unknown source you believe in). For example, If you wish that you don't fall ill. You will, because you thought of the illness. As Rhonda Byrne says , the negative terms are neglected by the universe and the term illness is emphasised and reflected back. Why take chances? Wish for your good health confidenly and not fearfully.You might have heard of the saying, 'If you think you can do it , you can . And if you think you can't, you can't. You are right both the ways.' Remind yourself you can do it and you will be able to. This short story proves how our thoughts affect our lives. Experts said for years that the human body was simply not capable of a 4-minute mile . It wasn’t just dangerous; it was impossible. In the 1940’s, the mile record was pushed to 4:01, where it stood for nine years, as runners struggled with the idea that, just maybe, the experts had it right. Perhaps the human body had reached its limit. On May 6, 1954, Roger Bannister broke the 4-minute barrier, running the distance in 3:59.4. When asked, Roger said that , he visualised himself a million times before actually doing it. His relentless visualization of the achievement created a sense of certainty in his mind and body. That's what our thoughts are capable of doing. Barely a year after Bannister’s accomplishment, someone else ran a mile in under 4 minutes. Then some more runners did. Now, it’s almost routine. When you become certain of something, when every part of you believes it, when you focus on it every single day, something “magical” happens that helps you do which was undoable. So , Cherish your wish , love what you wish. You are shaping your destiny right now, through your thoughts and actions. This power is one of the life's greatest privileges , only if you make use of it.

Why are you sad ?

The kids are sad , because they want to grow old , the grown ups are sad because they want their childhood back. The poors want to be rich , the rich want to be richer. Noone is satisfied. We are sad because of us, because of ourselves. We need to find the good in the bad, happy in the sad, the gain in the pain. And what makes us grateful not hateful. But that's the truth of life. You need to be patient with yourself, nothing blooms all year. Life is beautiful for some and a struggle for others. Why? Why are few people happy and others sad? Because they think so. Our thoughts become things. If you think something is possible. It is. And if you think its impossible. It is. There will be competitions in life , and you may want to defeat all others. Don't think of their defeat. Prepare to win like all others , but not with a thought to defeat others but to win. That's how you win over yourself. You have always thought negative. Try being positive, not just on the outside but on the inside. Now , are you thinking, of a person who was the cause of your sadness?You are giving them the permission to do that. How? You created a dependency. Detatch yourself but not by saying, ''I don't care'' or not by mentally cursing them. But by moving on , by forgiving and learning.

Jealous of Myself!

 
If i met my seven year old self today, 
What would I tell her? What would
I say? Would I warn her for the future? Of bad things yet to come? Or would I leave her to be naive, To keep having fun? Because my seven year old self, Believed the world is a perfect place. Even though I've learnt so much more, years have passed since then. But, I would give up everything I have to view life through her eyes again. Yes, I envy myself, for the innocence I had , of never doubting people, never judging people. I'm jealous of her as she had no responsibilities, she smiled for no reason and believed she lived in a fairy tale. Being impractical and naive was so much more easy. Yes, jealous of myself.